Thursday, May 31, 2012

Breastfeeding Military Moms


It's pretty safe to say that this has been the controversial photo of the week! Once again, because the American public continues to sexualize breastfeeding, a photo of two military moms breastfeeding in uniform is causing all kinds of imbroglio. It's disheartening to know that even women who put their lives on the line to serve our country are considered obscene when they nurse their children; when they offer them the healthiest, most nutritious food God created for their babies.

COME ON! This is too infuriating!

This picture is not controversial. I dream of the day when women can nurse their children in public and people pass by them like they are just another leaf on a tree or crack in a sidewalk. See, I don't expect or want people to stop and applaud when they see us. I just want it to be so normal and accepted that no one even takes notice. Instead, people gawk and stare and point and whisper and gasp and...it is just so ridiculous.

So now these women are being vilified and made to feel as if they are somehow defiling their uniforms and disrespecting their countries. These women should be held in the highest esteem for simultaneously doing two of the hardest jobs in the history of the world!

Bed-Sharing: Are you doing it right?

Someone posted this awesome (and hilarious) article in my Crunchy Moms group on Facebook. I like that it not only speaks to granola parents who bed-share, but all parents everywhere who seem to have forgotten what it means to make the commitment to be a parent! I know that when Jeff and I started on this granola adventure, I think our goal was, first, to be the best kind of parents we could be. And we were frustrated because it was not the kind of parenting we were seeing in the mainstream. Particularly with me being a teacher, I am constantly exposed to the reprecussions of more mainstream parenting. This article hits the nail on the head for me. It puts into words what I did not even realize I wanted to say.

It's not just about bed-sharing or whether or not you choose to bed-share. It has to do with realizing that when you choose to become a parent, YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE. Your life is not your own anymore. It's not even about you anymore. You have to embrace the changes, learn to love them, or you will drown. You will fail as a parent. You will be miserable. Being a parent is answering the highest of callings. It is absolutely fantastic and magical but also frustrating and difficult. No rainbows without rain, right?

Mom and baby girl bed sharingMom and her baby boy co sleep in bed together

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Call the Midwife

DH discovered a new television show for me to be addicted to! Call the Midwife is a (so far) fascinating and addictive show on BBC One, which follows a newly certified midwife in London's East End in the 1950's. It's based on memoirs of Jennifer Worth, which I fully intend on reading as soon as I have time to (breathe!).

 

Sadly, the only way to see it at the moment is to import the first season on DVD from somewhere like Amazon.com and play it through a "Region-Free" DVD player.

Luckily, the show was picked up by PBS and should premiere in the US on September 30, 2012 on your Local PBS station.


From a granola standpoint, it's awesome to see that, even with the "lack of technology", women safely delivered baby upon baby at home with the help of a midwife and a mother or husband in the room. They did have doctors available, at that time, to deliver high-risk babies in the hospital. There was a story line where a woman who had Ricketts, had to deliver via C-section due to how the Ricketts had affected her pelvis. But other story lines have included what would be considered "high risk" these days (very pre-term delivery, breech delivery, mothers over the age of 40, etc.) where the women deliver safely at home. It's just nice to see another (realistic) perspective of labor and deliery.

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Co-Sleeping Interview Series - Kaia M.

Kaia M. is back to give us some information about co-sleeping. I am so jealous of her granola upbringing! So many of us crunchy moms are navigating this alone, often as our own mothers (and other family members) are simultaneously questioning and even insulting our parenting choices.

Sunday, May 27, 2012

What's been on my mind...


BLW Interview Series - Kaia M.

Kaia M. is another supportive mama (and great resource) I've met through my Crunchy Mamas Facebook group. Her perspective is unqie because she herself was raised on BLW so it was a natural choice for her with her own baby. You can almost "hear" how comfortable she is with the topic in her answers. I don't think this was her intention, but this has been the most convincing interview for me, so far. Thank you, Kaia M.!

Friday, May 25, 2012

BLW Interview Series - Kelly K

I am very excited for this interview. Not only is Kelly K. another granola mommy right here in my homewtown, but she is super-passionate about baby-led weaning so I know she'll have a TON of useful information for us. Thank you, Kelly K., for spreading the good word here!

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Placenta Options After Labor and Delivery Interview Series - Elizabeth F.

Elizabeth F. graces us once again with more granola insight, this time about what options mamas have to do something special with their placenta after L&D. I do hope she'll give us an update when she decides exactly what she wants to do with her placenta. Thanks again, Elizabeth F.!

TIME magazine cover reaction


This is absolutely the response I dreamed of. THIS is what AP is all about. It's not about being "extreme". It's not about being "in your face". Parents every day have to decide whether or not they are going to spank their children, are they going to allow their children to use a pacifier, when they are going to potty train, etc. Parents have an insurmountable number of paths to choose when it comes to parenting. AP parents are feeling their way through this uncertainty and self-doubt, just like everyone else. They know they have these certain values that they want to uphold. They follow what inherently "feels" right for them and their children. Does that sound "extreme" or does it sound familiar?

Monday, May 21, 2012

BLW Interview Series - Elizabeth F.

In the crunchy moms page I am a part of on Facebook, Elizabeth F. is an absolute celebrity because she recently had a VBAC (vaginal birth after ceserean); more amazingly, it was a HBAC (home birth after ceserean). I have asked and I am hoping she will be willing to share her incredible stroy with us. Until then, her was some insight into BLW that she shared with me. This is a topic about which I am most ignorant, so I am very happy to learn more. Thank you, Elizabeth F.!

He's here!

Elliott Jay Beach was born 5/13/12 at 9:16pm at 7lbs, 3oz and 20.5 inches long. Our birth story is unusual but then, even though birth is normal, EVERY birth story is unique.

Sunday, May 13, 2012

sugar-free birthday cake

For Lydia's first birthday, we had no interest in engaging in the traditional "smash cake" - where a small cake is made for the birthday boy/girl, covered with copious amounts of frosting, and the child is left to eat the cake with his/her hands so as to make a mess for the enjoyment of all to watch.

Saturday, May 12, 2012

DIY weed killer

We have a nasty weed problem. DH looked up some different weed killers available on the market today and learned that one of the main ingredients of weed killer is also one of the main ingredients in AGENT ORANGE. He did not feel comfortable with that, to say the least. After the success of my DIY laundry detergent and DIY dishwasher detergent, he thought he should be able to find a DIY weed killer. He was right!

DIY dishwasher detergent UPDATE!!!

Hallelujah! It actually works! I was hopeful, but really skeptical at the same time. The recipe is SO simple, how could it really clean the dishes? I am here to say it worked beautifully. There was a cheese grater in there, tongs that pulled BBQ chicken, glasses, cereal bowls, it was a full load of every day dishes. The next load will have the crock pot in it that cooked the BBQ chicken so that will be a real test. Our dishwasher is easily 10+ years old. It is nothing top of the line, trust me. So if it can work for me, it can work for you! Please go try it out and tell me how it works out for you!

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Are You Mom Enough?

Have you seen this???



I haven't read the actual article, but the cover alone is causing a riot on social media everywhere. Mainstream parents are calling it "disturbing" and "wrong". Many say that Attachment Parenting is more in the interest of the parents than the welfare of the children whereas AP parents believe they are being responsive to their children's needs. Anti-AP people say that AP parents cannot let go of their children and let them "grow up". AP parents feel that their methods actually cause their children to be more secure and therefore more independent ("grown up").

The most interesting comment I heard was from an AP mom. She said that the picture makes the mom look confrontational and defensive. I am inclined to agree. If our hope is to have people accept us for our parenting style choices, than we need to appear/be open to other parenting styles and approachable for people who have questions about ours. Also, AP is also known as "gentle parenting", so it seems contradictory to me have the mom look like some sort of haughty bad-ass.

Co-Sleeping Interview Series - Hannah B.

Hannah B. offered up such great information about BLW that I was so happy to have the opportunity to interview her about co-sleeping, as well. Her answers are raw and hilarious! Thank you, Hannah B., for keepin' it real.

Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Co-Sleeping Interview Series - Jordan W.


During this series, I love reading and learning the difference opinions and motivations of each woman but, what speaks greater volumes, are the common themes I see emerging with each interview. It helps to see all of these women with the same parenting values so that you can reflect on whether or not you share those same values. If you do, this may be an option you want to explore for your family. Thanks again, Jordan W., for your honesty and willingness to share with us.

Monday, May 7, 2012

updates

Hi everyone, I just wanted to let you all know that I updated the Babywearing and Cloth Diapering pages. This site is a constant work and progress and I promise I am working on it...just not as constantly as I would like!


A week and three days from my due date, so we'll see when baby boy decides to make his grand arrival!

Midwifery Care: What's in it for Women?

Here is the first of a new online series called I am a Midwife. This video is less than ten minutes long. It is beautifully done. I really encourage anyone who is considering using a midwife, becoming a midwife, is skeptical of midwifery, or who simply loves a midwife to watch it. Even though it is short, the women are articulate, so the messages are clear. These women are powerful, highly intelligent, and beautiful.

 

Sunday, May 6, 2012

Baby Led Weaning Interview Series - Hannah B

Baby-led weaning is the topic I am the most ignorant about. I thought I was being crunchy by making all of our own baby food. I was really proud of myself for taking whole, organic foods and breaking them down for baby consumption. Little did I know that there is a group of granola mamas who don't think that is absolutely necessary. It is my understanding now that babies can safely be exposed to whole, organic foods in their whole form, NOT pureed! Hannah B, has some great insight into how and why this method works for her family. Again, I have a lot of things to think about when DS is ready for food.

Thursday, May 3, 2012

composting

It was actually my husband's idea to start composting. I never had any interest in being so involved in our garbage. Sure, we recycled, but that's easy. Cans and jars to the left, paper to the right. But, now we're talking about old food and dirt and...uh, gross. But composting has turned out to be very simple and effective!

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Placenta Options After Labor and Delivery Interview Series - Jordan W.

Jordan W. is an incredible granola guru who is very knowledgeable on ALL THREE of the series topics. I chose to share this interview first because very little is known about the topic in mainstream American society. I'd like to thank Jordan W. for sharing such a wealth of knowledge with us. It's obvious that she has made every effort to research every option for keeping her family healthy and happy. It certainly gives us a lot to consider.

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Co-Sleeping Interview Series - Katharine T.

As promised, another mama is ready to weigh-in on the co-sleeping debate. No, not much of a debate is being waged HERE, but it is a controversial topic in the overall mothering community. Although Katharine T. does agree with Jamie V. that co-sleeping is right for her family, she offers unique insight and a slightly different perspective as to her reasons why. I appreciate Katharine T.'s willingness to share a glimpse into her family's life for our benefit of knowledge.